Loneliness has such a negative connotation to it. I have begun to notice that people my age are afraid to be alone, but I find it necessary. I believe God gives us a time of loneliness in order for us to clear our minds, dig deeper in His Word and build a better relationship with Him. This is what many know as the "Single Season".
I am dating to marry. I don't want to waste my time with meaningless relationships. If I know that it is not going anywhere, there is no reason to continue to waste my time or his. In my opinion if there is no future, there is no point. There are so many other things I could be doing instead of putting my energy into something that has no potential to grow into something more. No casual dating for me.
Forming a stronger bond with Jesus is the top priority for me at this time. I'd rather have a time of singleness and loneliness, than have a relationship with someone that I know isn't going anywhere. I want to be whole and complete- mentally, spiritually, and emotionally and the only way to do that is to cut out all of the distractions. How am I supposed to meet my Adam, if I continue to entertain boys? Boys who aren't deep into the Word, who don't want to give me 110%, who don't respect me. I know that as I am becoming whole, my Adam is doing the same and when the timing is right, God will show him to me.
And on that note... Remember: God shows you who is good for you and who is not. Please believe Him when He shows you! If you're the only one putting in effort, let it go!
Are you going to embrace your time of singleness/loneliness or are you going to keep dating people who are not right for you and continue to get hurt?
xx,
Alexis Sade'